The Last Self Help Book You Will Ever Have To Read

Most of my clients and friends are seekers. 

They like new ideas, get turned on by the latest innovations, and search for the best ways to be happier, healthier, wealthier, skinnier, savvier. You get the idea  if it ends in -er, if it might make them better in ways that matter, they are going to look into it.

The chronic search for the best ways to attract abundance, balance checkbooks, heal from illness, flush fat, clean up sugar addictions, be positive, attain inner peace, parent wisely, love deeper In relationships, respond positively to infidelity, become more intuitive, or find passionate careers means one thing:  buying a whole lotta self-help books and perusing the internet for new ways to get more of the er they are after.

Most us will research the changes we want to make, find the latest and greatest approach to help us, and probably even buy the book or product that will guide us along the yellow brick road to the Oz of our desired outcomes.


Did you notice that I said buy, but not read or use?

YEAH…That wasn’t an accident.

Because  here’s the thing about  seekers, all of whom are  driven to grow and deeply desire to be their best:  most of those self help books are half-read and piling up on their night stands.  Maybe some of these partially consumed books are dog-eared and have a few notes written in them, but they are otherwise forgotten- having been replaced by a newer book with the cure-du jour.

That’s right seekers I’ve got your number.  I know you! And I’ve even been you- excitedly researching and launching into your latest purchase that promises to provide the answers, the path, to the happier or better self.  Go take a stroll through your self-help graveyard and notice the tombstones about mindfulness, thinking and growing rich, manifesting with intention, realizing your own power, healing your life, cleaning up your body, finding true love.  These  books and articles- the ones you already bought, the ones that promised to provide the changes you’ve wanted, but lay untapped and under committed to.  And it’s not that they can’t get you there-many or most of them are excellent guides. It’s that  you haven’t done the work in them.


Which leads me to the ultimate take-away of this post, the one action step that will change your life as a  seeker and your relationship with all the information you collect about how to truly be your best self: 


Actually do the work
in one of those self help books.
 
That’s right. I’m asking you to pick ONE of those books you already own- and WORK it.  Don’t just read a few paragraphs when you are in the mood, don’t get half way through and move on to something else, don’t just leaf through the ideas without doing the action steps the book suggests.  No, do something different this time: make a commitment to yourself and to that book.

Though I’m not affiliated with one, I know that Twelve Step programs have a wise expression called “working the program” which means “don’t just understand your addiction intellectually, do the actual steps everyday to create huge and everlasting transformation.”   Recently, in a session with one of my clients who is very ill, I was guided to tell her that she needed to actually “work the program” , meaning USE all of the many spectacular tools and spiritual practices she is already knowledgable about.  In other words, stop hoarding more information and start using it in a deliberate, intentional, committed way if you truly want to heal and change.


I’ve never seen half-hearted effort create huge transformation.  Have you? 

So pick ONE self growth book- one that’s currently trending or is an old classic- and dive into it like it’s the last self help book you will every buy or need to read, like it’s got all the jewels of wisdom and answers embedded within it.  This time, don’t just skim the surface of a book you might learn from.  After all, when has treading water in the shallow-end ever gotten anyone olympic-size results?

If you take me up on this challenge, my guess is that you will experience enormous, magnificent shifts in your life just by buckling down and finally doing what you keep seeking.  Because I know you want more than to just chronically search for answers, you want to live and breathe the solutions.  And that’s why the best and last self help books you will ever have to read will be the ones you actually put into practice.

Share with me your comments and experiences along the way!

 

Beth Miller is the creator of Modern Intuitive Therapy, combing the very best of psychotherapy, life coaching, energy healing, science, and spirituality.  She has a private practice in Sayville, New York and works with clients around the globe.  Beth hosts Positive Energy weekly groups and a Sunday Morning Enlightenment series.  Her youtube channel and blog are meant to teach and serve, sharing the best tools and skills to trust your soul, master your energy, and live your highest life. Beth’s The Soul Cure For Anxiety Online Therapy Course is a multi-media, 11-week alternative to attending therapy that teaches how to be calm, cool, and connected- no matter what is happening in life.  For FREE guided meditations join her at www.bethmillermeditations.com. Join the fun at www.facebook.com/supertherapywithbethmiller !

 

 

GOT JUDGMENT OR ANGER? 2-Minute Tool To Get Zen In A Jiffy


Recently one of my clients came to session with a lot of anger.

She said he has been trying really hard to be more positive, but noticed she was just “repressing” a lot of her judgments and frustrations about other people. In other words, it’s not that she had stopped feeling negative emotions, she was just expressing it less.

I had to applaud her.  Not only was she trying to be more positive, but she also recognized that talking about her judgments and resents actually makes them grow bigger. Have you noticed how focusing on them feeds them just like logs on a fire?

Judgment and anger about others is a super-common issue for us humans.  Not everyone wants to learn how to rise above it, but those that do notice how depleted and exhausted these auto-pilot reactions make them.  As you probably know, the reactions we have to others is always an opportunity for us to grow.  In a weird twist, it’s almost like people are doing things specifically to activate the parts of us that need to develop emotionally and spiritually.  On a more cosmic level, it’s like they are sacrificing for us to grow. This is what makes  triggering people  our “calling” rise up and become more enlightened.

I’m not a practicing Buddhist, but I love many of their teachings and psychology. The Tibetan Buddhist tradition actually instructs all beginning students in a practice called Making Difficulties into a Path.  In other words, the teachers intentionally give the students tasks that will trigger their “stuff” so that they can work on it. In Jack Kornfield’s A Path With Heart, he quotes a Tibetan prayer that begins “Grant that I may be given appropriate difficulties and sufferings on this journey so that my heart may be truly awakened and my practice of liberation and universal compassion may be truly fulfilled.”


Now, you may be like:
“Hey, Beth, I’m not really psyched about the idea of wishing and hoping for suffering
so that I can practice having more compassion!”

And I get it- that might seem a little extreme for your taste. No problem. So let’s scratch the actual wishing for annoying colleagues  and frustrating relatives.  But if you do experience undesired judgment and anger toward someone, like my client, we might as well learn how to enlighten it.

Here’s a great tool I came up with to transcend judgment, anger, and frustration with others. It’s simple, fast, and effective. All you need is a bit of practice.

2-MINUTE TOOL TO TRANSCEND JUDGMENT AND ANGER

  • NAME IT:   Become the observer of your feelings by naming them as they occur. Make the focus of your attention what is happening within you, instead of about them.  For example, when your friend starts to irritate you, take a breath and notice your insides.  In your mind, notice your physical sensations and feelings like this “I  notice that I am frustrated. I notice that my chest is tightening. I notice that I am thinking of his faults.”

  • RADICALLY ACCEPT IT:
     
     
    We can’t change what we don’t genuinely accept about ourselves. This is the problem with repression- it isn’t authentic.  Tell  yourself “I radically accept that I am frustrated, judging,  having a hard time.  I love and accept myself.” This will prevent you from judging yourself when you judge others, doubling the problem.

  • ENLIGHTEN IT
    :
    It’s time to bring light to the situation by doing one of many things: begin to think of the other’s person’s strengths, pray for them, fill your heart with compassion for them, think of them as they were as a child, send the word “love” to them, fill your heart up with light, or breath 10 deep inhales.

  • EXPEL IT:
    Now you can let it go with a deep breath that deflates your chest. Do this by taking in a deep breath and then exhaling forcefully, exhausting your solar plexus.  Empty your sternum area entirely of breath and the energy of this issue.  Say “I release this.”

Try it!- it’s really simple and it works.  Sure you may have to do it many times over- after all, you are building a weak muscle into a strong one.  But do this one time and you will feel so much better immediately, releasing the judgment and anger. Do this many times and you will notice that your anger and judgment actually happens less and less and less…..

 

PS If you want to share the content of my blog, please cite me and create a link to my website and blog.  It’s great to re-post me, but please link it to my site.  The internet- and your own manifesting- works best on a honor system, where we all have integrity.  Thanks a million!

Beth Miller is the creator of Modern Intuitive Therapy, combing the very best of psychotherapy, life coaching, energy healing, science, and spirituality.  She has a private practice in Sayville, New York and works with clients around the globe.  Beth hosts Positive Energy weekly groups and a Sunday Morning Enlightenment series.  Her youtube channel and blog are meant to teach and serve, sharing the best tools and skills to trust your soul, master your energy, and live your highest life. Beth’s The Soul Cure For Anxiety Online Therapy Course is a multi-media, 11-week alternative to attending therapy that teaches how to be calm, cool, and connected- no matter what is happening in life.  For FREE guided meditations join her at www.bethmillermeditations.com. Join the fun at www.facebook.com/supertherapywithbethmiller !

 

 

 

 

 

THE MISSING PIECE IN YOUR MANIFESTING: this overlooked tool changes everything

When I think back, I’ve been teaching about manifesting for even longer than I have been counseling people.

Way before The Secret even came on the scene, it seemed obvious to me- and probably to you too!- that your attitude creates you happiness, which therefore affects the outcomes in your world.  But within the last 15 years there has been a more accessible clarity about exactly what formula you need to follow to “get” the things you want in life:

Know what you want + Have a super positive attitude = Get What You Desire

Right? Right.

But I’m sure you have noticed on a few- or maybe a few hundred- times that you simply couldn’t manifest what you wanted no matter how hard you tried.  If you are anything like my clients, this probably drives you crazy.  People come into my office frustrated and defeated, feeling like the magic of The Law of Attraction is a hoax. Or worse, that they are themselves defective, like one of my clients who recently asked “What is wrong with me? Why can’t I do this?”

Over the years as a Modern Intuitive Therapist (combining the best of psychotherapy, life coaching, energy healing, science, and spirituality), I have noticed that some people manifest quicker than others. And of course I see it in myself:  sometimes I am a wiz at it, while other times it seems like progress is as slow as walking through quicksand.


It took me a while to realize what separated
the clients who Manifested with the Midas touch,
Versus those who had trouble creating the lives they wanted.
But when I isolated the one factor that determined who found happiness and those who struggled,
it all became clear.

 

Because, even though all of my clients were receiving Modern Intuitive Therapy with me, not all of them were able to embody one major truth.

This stumbling block, this barrier was so fundamental it is often overlooked. I started to see that it was the same missing piece over and over again that was holding some people back. There was a gap in the manifesting process, something The Secret or most psychological theories didn’t capture enough when instructing people on how to create a great life.

What has been eluding most people in their quest to be able to think more positive, and therefore create and attract more positive lives, is actually pretty simple.

And here it is: you are not able to create what you want, or feel happiness and at ease, is very simply your inability to radically trust.  When you do not radically trust yourself, others, or The Divine Flow, life is hard.  When you do, everything flows.

Now, this might be a light bulb moment for you, or maybe you are already aware of just how little you trust. But let me show you how trust affects that manifesting formula we talked about earlier.

As you know, the Law of Attraction recipe requires that you feel positive in order to attract more positive stuff into your life. It’s half of the ingredients to bake the cake of your outcome.  The other half is knowing what you want.

The only trouble is that most people can’t maintain a positive vibration for very long.  They get derailed by too many doubting emotions, frustrated that what they want hasn’t arrive, bummed that life isn’t cooperating.  These lower emotions push what you want to create further away, while maintaining a positive vibration would bring them closer, faster.

Your positive vibration- your hopeful thinking and feeling of excitement- collapses when you lose trust in yourself, others, and The Divine Flow.

But you can learn to trust so radically in yourself, others, and The Divine Flow, you will be able to scale the mote that is keeping you from entering the castle of your desired outcome.


Trust is the bridge to get you what you want.
Radical trust will actually create miracles.  No joke. 

 

I will be sharing a play by play guide about how to do this in my new book that will be published, I radically trust, within a year.  But in the meantime, I want you to be able to get started with this easy and simple trust building tool:

Here’s what to do:  Every time and any time you get upset about the lack of something in your life, consumed in what is going wrong, or worried that your dreams won’t come true, simply begin to say the words “I trust”.  Say it over and over and over, like a mantra.  Let the word trust, and the idea behind it, begin to smooth the frayed path you are walking along.  Allow the words “I trust” to become your go-to safety net when you are going down that negative rabbit hole.  Keep repeating it, make it the focus of your mind, and watch the miracles parade in.

This Trust Tool can be used to manifest what you want- or transcend any problem in your life.  I’ll keep showing you how to use it in future blogs, and you let me know how it’s working!

 

PS If you want to share the content of my blog, please cite me and create a link to my website and blog.  It’s great to re-post me, but please link it to my site.  The internet- and your own manifesting- works best on a honor system, where we all have integrity.  Thanks a million!

Beth Miller is the creator of Modern Intuitive Therapy, combing the very best of psychotherapy, life coaching, energy healing, science, and spirituality.  She has a private practice in Sayville, New York and works with clients around the globe.  Beth hosts Positive Energy weekly groups and a Sunday Morning Enlightenment series.  Her youtube channel and blog are meant to teach and serve, sharing the best tools and skills to trust your soul, master your energy, and live your highest life. Beth’s The Soul Cure For Anxiety Online Therapy Course is a multi-media, 11-week alternative to attending therapy that teaches how to be calm, cool, and connected- no matter what is happening in life.  For FREE guided meditations join her at www.bethmillermeditations.com. Join the fun at www.facebook.com/supertherapywithbethmiller !

 

EFT To Open Energy, Release Blocks, Create Miracles


at Sunday Morning Enlightenment this week, we did EFT to open our hearts & release blocks… to let in happiness & MIRACLES.

Why? Because when out hearts are closed and we have blocks in our energy flow, and we can’t manifest the amazing things we want in our lives. Blocked energy or unhealed issues within us cause us to feel stuck or stagnant, angry or depressed, afraid to take the steps we need in our lives.

Release these blocks- and open the heart- and amazing things occur:  synchronicities happen, creative ideas pop, courage that was elusive somehow seems easy, issues that were roadblocks move out of the way.

EFT- or tapping- is an awesome tool to begin to clear out the meridians of stuck energy and allow the flow of movement to course through you once again.  We paired this with a meditation to open the heart and release issues that need to go.


Doing this energy healing technique once is great, but why stop there?

The more you use these healing tools, the more you will zoom ahead. and feel happy and peaceful as you do so.  Below you wil find all of the details about how to do them at home on your own.

 

HERE IS THE EFT SEQUENCE WE USED TO OPEN THE HEART AND ALLOW IN MIRACLES

Think of a block, or problem, in your life
Maybe it’s your fear to go forward with your career plan
Maybe it’s your challenges in a relationship
Maybe it’s anger about your past
Maybe it’s your hesitancy to be who you really are
Maybe it’s your food habits or your addiction
Maybe it’s your illness and how you feel about it
Maybe it’s your anger, impatience, lack of compassion, anger about what you lack
Maybe it’s your lack of forgiveness of a friend
Maybe it’s your frustration with your babysitter or your colleague

 

NOW WRITE DOWN THESE ANSWERS IN YOUR JOURNAL
What feelings it causes you, write the feeling down
Measure that feeling on a scale of  1(lowest) -10 (highest) , write it down
Where you feel this in your body

 

KARATE CHOP:
And say “Even though I have this block I completely love and accept myself”

 

TAP ON THESE POINTS WHile repeating the phrases below

Top of head
Third Eye
Beginning of eye brow bone
Side of eye behind temple on bone
Under eye
Under nose
Under lips
On collar bone, one inch to each side of the “U”
Center of chest- sternum
Under arm (i.e. where bra strap would be)

This block
This fear
This worry
This closed heart
This lack of forgiveness This block of creativity
This unwillingness
My closed heart
My afraid heart
My fearful heart
This problem

I can choose to open up
I can choose to begin to let go
I can choose to open my heart
I can choose to release this
I can choose to have my angels take this form me
I can choose to see love instead of fear
I can choose miracles
I believe in releasing
I welcome in healing
I can welcome in new idea

 

TAKE A DEEP BREATH, AND WRITE IN YOUR JOURNAL
Measure your feelings again on scale 1-10
What physical sensations are you having?
Write down any thoughts

 

NOW TAP ON THE POINTS AGAIN WHILE REPEATING THESE PHRASES

Freedom comes to me
Open-ess is now
I am more open
I feel comfortable and at ease
I am relaxed about this issue
This issue is softer
Just a little bit easier
I feel a bit more comfortable
I am more open
My heart is more open
My heart is more open
New compassion and ease come to me now

I am free
My heart is open
My heart is wide open
A dam of energy has broken and love is rushing into my being
Power and capability fill me
I am infinite and powerful
I am peaceful and free
My heart is open
My energy is free
I love
I am loved
I am loving

 

TAKE A DEEP BREATH, AND WRITE IN YOUR JOURNAL
Now Measure your feelings again on scale 1-10
What physical sensations are you having
Write down any thoughts
Start at the beginning if you have not reduced your number to 1 or very close to it.

 

NOW WRITE A LETTER IN YOUR JOURNAL THAT STARTS LIKE THIS
“I am so happy now that I am free and moving.  My new life looks like this:

 

CONTINUE TO USE THIS EFT aND NOTICE THE CHANGES THAT OCCUR IN YOUR LIFE!
or CHECK OUT MY YOUTUBE CHANNEL THAT HAS TONS OF EFT VIDEOS

 

 

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Beth Miller is the creator of Modern Intuitive Therapy, combing the very best of psychotherapy, life coaching, energy healing, science, and spirituality.  She was voted BEST PSYCHOTHERAPIST ON LONG ISLAND by The Long Island Press. Beth has a private practice in Sayville, New York and works with clients around the globe.  Beth hosts Positive Energy weekly groups and a Sunday Morning Enlightenment series.  Her youtube channel and blog are meant to teach and serve, sharing the best tools and skills to trust your soul, master your energy, and live your highest life. Beth’s The Soul Cure For Anxiety Online Therapy Course is a multi-media, 11-week alternative to attending therapy that teaches how to be calm, cool, and connected- no matter what is happening in life.  For FREE guided meditations join her at www.bethmillermeditations.com. Join the fun at www.facebook.com/supertherapywithbethmiller  

 

 

 

Super-Spiritual Fixes To Make Miracles Out Of Your Challenges

During our first SUNDAY MORNING ENLIGHTNEMENT workshop WE DISCUSSED WHY WE NEED A MODERN SPIRITUAL PRACTICE IN OUR MODERN WORLD.

Routinely connecting in with love simply yields all- over  better results in every areas of life.  And because the more we do this, the more traction we create,  frequent visits with our highest self will enable a more loving, successful, wise  automatic us.  A spiritual practice is called a practice for exactly that reason-  its just giving new methods that are love-based a whirl over and over again.  And without the rituals or habits of connecting in with this truth and wisdom, we can and will only regurgitate our patters and beliefs from the past. We asked “Autopilot or consciousness?  Autopilot will get you good results, consciousness the fabulousness  you really are seeking.

In the workshop we also remembered why enlightenment is a totally reasonable goal: because it simply means bringing the light and power of love to the darker parts of our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. Big life results occur any moment  we add in a small spiritual practices.  Enlightenment, thank goodness, happens any moment we choose light as the way.

I asked you to Answer The Call Of Your Highest Self. How?  By maximizing your talents and diving into your challenges. And its your spiritual practice that can help you do just that.

As we appreciate just how uniquely powerful your own special lives are, we realize we are constantly being called to rise and grow.  Your strengths, talents, the things you care about and light you up, are part of your “calling” in this world- they are your unique contribution, the way you are blessed and how you can bless others.  The question is: are you using them to your fullest?

Similarly, you challenges are also your “calling”- whatever is hard in your life, what stinks about you, what you struggle with, where you are blocked- is exactly your opportunity to use love and light to transcend.  What you suffer with is your welcome mat into a better life if you say YES, instead of hating your problems, resisting them, denying them.  When you enlighten these issues, you grow spiritually, and life becomes easier, more peaceful, more meaningful, and WAY MORE SUCCESSFUL.

Every single thing that is occurring in your world is an opportunity to become more united with the truth of your life-  you are made of love and light, you create best when you are linked with this love, you are magnificent beyond measure, and there is a flow that you can enter that will allow your life to be greater, grander, sweeter, richer in all ways.


join me in saying YES to it ALL-
the good, the bad, and the ugly…and we will create miracles.


 

TRANSCENDING OUR CHALLENGES WITH A SPIRITUAL PRACTICE

During the workshop I invited everyone to tell me their challenges, so that I could suggest at least one spiritual practice  to transcend it.  Some of you were so brave and you spoke up.  Thank goodness- your challenges represent all of ours-  as we have all struggled with similar issues. Here are some MORE ideas about what spiritual fixes can be used to transform impatience, a wild mind, and feeling unsure of what steps to take forward in a job or otherwise.


JANE’S CHALLENGE WITH IMPATIENCE.
Jane asked how she could be more patient with her child. Because we are choosing to see her impatience as a gift, the goal is to apply a spiritual practice of love to it, which will cause it to transform.

I asked Jane what makes her impatient.  She said the “to-do list”.  I followed that up by a wondering if everything on the list really needs to get done, or if it is so full because she puts non-essential items on it.? Filling up space and time with constant stuff to do is often a habit. However, life  does truly require a lot of action steps.   I asked her to eliminate what is non-essential, and make sure joy and presence is on the list instead.

I also asked Jane to create a new narrative for herself, letting go of the well-rehearsed “oh my gosh I have sooo much to do “ mantra that most of us get embroiled in when we are overwhelmed.  I suggested that she instead start her day with the intention to “be” and “feel” how she actually desires.  For instance, after she wakes up say: “Good morning life, thank you bed, thank you warm home.  I am so grateful today for all of the patience and peace I feel today.  My child and I have a smooth, easy morning, I am efficient and present, we laugh and enjoy each other.  Thank you for such a beautiful day.”

Here are some other suggestions for Jane, and the rest of you, to have more patience and presence with someone in your life:

  • While meditating or when going to sleep, create a connection of pink light from your heart to your child, or another person.  Repeat words like “I love you.  I am present with you.  You are so loved.  All is well” as you send this light to this person. This will create harmonious energy between you and assure the other of your unconditional love. You can create this heart connection throughout the day as well.
  • Get your own energy right. Before interacting, decide how you will “be” with this other person.  Usually our mood is already decided before interacting, and the other person simply triggers the impatience and stress within us.  If you want to be calm and fun, decide “I am going to be calm and fun this afternoon” before dealing them.
  • When you have already become triggered by another person and are being impatient, remove yourself and decide to close your mouth until you have re-regulated your interior space.  Find peace before you interact again by breathing 10 times and repeat the word love in your mind.
  • When you have become triggered into impatience, look into the EYES of  the other person and ask yourself if you desire to cause them fear.  If not, repeat the words “love love love love love” in your mind until the crisis of impatience passes.  Thank the other our loud  for being your teacher.
  • Buy a bell, Tibetan singing bowl, or fun music CD. When things are getting stressed, ring the bell or press play on a song to “reset” the vibration.
  • Slow down.  Impatience thrives on a frenetic energy.  Slow down or sit still temporarily to actually get MORE done in a HAPPIER state of mind.
  • Forgive yourself.  Parenting and life can be super hard.  That’s why we need our spiritual practice.  Self care is essential, it enables patience to occur.

 

DEBBIE TOLD US HER CHALLENGE ABOUT WORK.   She wanted to know how to “work part-time but make a full-time salary”.  Because we are choosing to see her work issue as a gift, the goal is to apply a spiritual practice of love to it, which will cause it to transform.  I asked her to look at the list that she had just written of her “talents, strengths, and gifts.”  I suggested she start there-  that our gifts and interests are often the surest way to make a living using what we naturally love to do.  She was also  given journaling questions to help her begin to maximize her talents.

Here are even more suggestions that she- and you- can take to get clarity about the next step in your job or create a career filled with what you want:

  • Write a new vision statement describing your ideal job or way to spend your day. Read it daily. Make sure your thoughts and feelings are not focused on what you actually DON’T want.
  • Ask yourself what you would be doing with your time if you didn’t need money at all-  how would you contribute to the world, serve others, or use your talents if you didn’t need money? Ask yourself what does the world need?  (This question will often connect you to what you love doing the most….and then to the ways you can do it to earn money.)
  • Walk and give thanks:  everyday take a walk and repeat the words “Thank you so much for my amazing life’s work.  Thank you for my full time salary and my part time hours.  Thank you so much for the ideas, the courage, the capability to have such a perfect job.” After your walk, write the ideas down right away that came to you while you walked.
  • Read The Artists Way and do The Morning Pages every day.  This is a sure fire way to connect with ideas and creativity.
  • Love your fear.  There is a great chance you already know what you can do to move forward into a better career arrangement, but you are scared.  It’s ok-  this is perfect for your spiritual practice. “Thank you fear, I love you and I also trust the process of life, I trust myself, I trust the flow.”  When opportunities knock, say YES even if you’re scared. Remember that you life is short and your soul is big,-make the most of your time here!

 

RACHEL’S CHALLENGE WAS HER RELENTLESSLY BUSY MIND.  Because we are choosing to see her busy, non-present mind as a gift, the goal is to apply a spiritual practice of love to it, which will cause it to transform.  We will make her monkey mind her friend.  Rachel said that even while sitting in the workshop she couldn’t stop thinking about what she needed to do next. As a result, she was missing out on life, always living in the next moment, losing the sweetness of the now.  I suggested she use her body to pull her mind back into the moment.

Here is how to use this skill- to occupy the mind with the details of the present moment- so that you are “here now” and also some other suggestions to tame the wild monkey mind:

  • When your mind is not in the now, ask yourself and describe in detail
    -“What do I see  right now around me?, ” “What do I smell?” , “What do I feel?” “What can I taste?”  “What do I hear?”  This will align you with the moment, gently yanking your thoughts into the only time and space that matters.
  • Breathe to create a column of light:  When the mind is going crazy, your breath can become your focus instead. Breath is visceral, it is physical, it creates space and opens the body back up when it has become tightened by thought. It is also energetic, it aligns your center (your core) with its highest self.  Take a breath in and imagine it “straightening” you out, creating a column of light that reaches through your feet and also travels up through the crown of your head.  The column of breath/light connects you into the stable earth energy, aligns your body, and then connect with The Divine though your crown.  Keep breathing into this column of light within you.
  • Consider your thoughts your spiritual practice.  Love them and they will soften.  When you mind is active and you want it to quiet, tell it to do so.  Say: I love my thoughts, I love my thoughts.  Thoughts I love you and I ask you now to be focused on this moment.  I love this moment. I love this moment. Remind yourself that all is well in the present moment.  Repeat this over and over.

 

Tell me your challenges and I will email you with some ideas, or even make a blog post out of it- anonymously of course!
Wishing you peace in all ways, Beth

 

Beth Miller is the creator of Modern Intuitive Therapy, combing the very best of psychotherapy, life coaching, energy healing, science, and spirituality.  She has a private practice in Sayville, New York and works worldwide with clients.  Beth hosts Positive Energy weekly groups and a Sunday Morning Enlightenment series.  Her youtube channel and blog are meant to teach and serve, sharing the best tools and skills to trust your soul, master your energy, and live your highest life. Beth’s The Soul Cure For Anxiety Online Therapy Course is a multi-media, 11-week alternative to attending therapy that teaches how to be calm, cool, and connected- no matter what is happening in life.  For FREE guided meditations join her at www.bethmillermeditations.com. Join the fun at www.facebook.com/supertherapywithbethmiller !

 

 

 

Nick Ortner Reveals EXACTLY How To Become An Overnight Success At Hay House Event

Not long ago I had the great pleasure of listening to some super cool speakers at the Hay House Writers Workshop.  Of the many, Nick Ortner, Tapping Guru and author of several books about EFT including The Tapping Solution, struck a great balance between funny and profound. He had several gems, some real words of advice that really stuck with me.  Of these take-aways, here were a few of my most impactful faves:

  1. “IT TOOK ME 12 YEARS TO BECOME AN OVERNIGHT SUCCESS”. This was a running theme at the conference and was a real wake-up call to any of the authors in the audience who thoughts they might write a book, become an overnight success, and  make a million dollars in sales.   Nick helped pop the illusionary bubble of instant fame and wealth. No, he said, he and most authors do not simply bang out a killer book and become New York Time’s Bestsellers. Instead, he told the real story: a tale of taking chances, following his gut, accruing debt, and working his tooshie off to get where he is today.
  2. INTUITION + RISK TAKING + DEDICATION= SUCCESS. Nick story was a wonderful tromp through the process of a creative guy who wanted to make a movie about Tapping. His narrative had tons of sub-stories that often began something like: “So I left my job to make a movie but I had no idea how to make a movie so I googled it and bought $45,000 worth of camera equipment,  even though I had no idea how to make a movie.” The moral of this and his other intuition-following, risk-taking tales  was that he believed enough in his movie- and himself-f to stay dedicated to it even when the path seemed very unclear. As a result, synchronicities and opportunities he couldn’t have even dreamed of occurred over time (like speaking to thousands of people, writing best-selling books, getting married and having a new baby). Know why these things happened? Because he followed his gut with fervor, and yup- worked his tooshie off.
  3. DO YOU HAVE TO WORK YOUR TOOSHIE OFF TO BECOME SUCCESSFUL? I’ve had quite a few frustrated clients- artists, business people, authors, and musicians-who are downright deflated by how much dedication it takes to get heard in a busy world. What they learn is that having a good product or loving what you do isn’t enough. You have to love it so much you are willing to go the extra mile for it even when you feel low on steam. You have to believe in it so fiercely that giving up isn’t even an option. Because the reason it takes 12 years to become an overnight success is that you have to build yourself AND your audience up over that time.I teach my clients that there is a direct correlation between the success they have and their own process.  The timing they are so frustrated with is actually the space they need to become., to master their craft and their fears.

“Big” success comes when you have the self-value and clarity to create it.
It doesn’t happen any earlier because you simply weren’t ready yet.
You are
becoming… and the timing is precisely perfect.”

By the way, the answer to #3 is yes and no.  Yes, you have to devote a lot of time and effort to your mission, but you can do this  at your own pace. You don’t have to work non-stop on your craft, but know that the success may come slower and that’s okay.  Also, aiming for big success in your field doesn’t feel like drudgery if it’s a passion.  Sure the work can be hard, very hard sometimes, but you love it anyway.  Successful people have an urge they can’t ignore, a burning desire that pushes them from behind to reach goals one small step at a time.

Here’s  the motto I use to keep me going even when  I am frustrated with any part of my own process: your mission has to be bigger than your ego.  It’s the bare-boned truth and get’s me out of my own way. I have a feeling Nick Ortner believes in something like this too…

Beth Miller is the creator of Modern Intuitive Therapy, combing the very best of psychotherapy, life coaching, energy healing, science, and spirituality.  She has a private practice in Sayville, New York and works worldwide with clients.  Beth hosts Positive Energy weekly groups and a Sunday Morning Enlightenment series.  Her youtube channel and blog are meant to teach and serve, sharing the best tools and skills to trust your soul, master your energy, and live your highest life. Beth’s The Soul Cure For Anxiety Online Therapy Course is a multi-media, 11-week alternative to attending therapy that teaches how to be calm, cool, and connected- no matter what is happening in life.  For FREE guided meditations join her at www.bethmillermeditations.com. Join the fun at www.facebook.com/supertherapywithbethmiller !

 

HOW TO HEAR & FEEL YOUR GUIDES AND ANGELS RIGHT NOW

There was a time when I wasn’t able to hear or feel my spiritual guides very clearly. Over the years, my ability to receive messages from them has improved so dramatically that I am simply tickled by their presence.

My clients are usually very interested in improving their ability to connect with the beings of light that are working with them. Remember that your guides are with you even if you haven’t developed a keen sense of being able to be aware of them. Here’s are some great ways to strengthen your skills at connecting with your personal spiritual team:

Ask To Become A More Perceptive, Psychic Person: One thing I did years ago was to start envisioning actually being a more psychic person. I so badly wanted to help my clients in a deeper, faster way that I started envisioning myself having more intuitive skills. Within a few years, my psychic abilities in session magnified exponentially. I was always perceptive and somewhat intuitive, but now I am able to hear the collaboration of my guides with those of my clients, to get very accurate data about what is happening or needs to happen, and to feel angels and guides in my energy field. I can taste foods that have meaning to my clients, I get symbols and images that demonstrate what they need to do next, and I hear words and instructions to guide them. This ability grew as I envisioned more and more clearly how I wanted to help others- and will work for you too (in your own way) if you start making it a part of your desires.

Say HEllO To Your Guides And Angels: I’m amazed at how easy this is for me now. I say Hello and they answer me back! To practice this, simply say Hi to your spiritual guides and notice what you feel next. Do you get the chills over your body? Do your ears ring? Does it feel like someone is playing with your hair? This is what happens to me when I simply acknowledge my guides and can for you, too. Talk to them and then BE STILL. This will enable you to feel their vibration on you. Remember, they function on a higher vibration, so you will feel their frequency in these ways.

Pay Attention To How They Have Been Speaking To You: Chances are, your spiritual team has been talking to you in your ear forever- but you have been ignoring them or tuning them out. What repeated messages have been whispered around you? Is there a message about something that you need to do or change that you have been swatting away? Do you hear a small voice telling you to get off sugar or alcohol, repeating to you to buy a particular book to help you get on top of your finances, or prompting you to go sit and meditate? Often, this voice is the loving guidance of your guides and not just in your head. Remember, your guides are looking out for you and trying to nudge you to serve your highest self. It is their mission to work with you to enable your soul to reach its highest level of enlightenment.

Ask For Help Like This: Your guides can jump in best when you allow them to do what they do best- that is, to serve and help you in all ways. Ask them for everything, all the time, everyday to improve your communication with them. Can’t find your keys? Your patience? A store? A good idea? Ask, ask, ask. Say “Thank you angels for helping me find my keys” or “Guides please help me with this project” and you will see the assistance you need show up in one form or another. You can even yell it like how I did when my car was barreling backwards down a huge icy hill last year and I had no breaks or control. As soon as I yelled “Angel please help me!!!” my car was brought to a stop in a snow drift. Thank you angels, thank you angels. Did I mention to thank them a lot for their help to deepen your constant communication with them?

Tell me all about your experiences with your angels and guides- and also how you are developing more communication with them!

Beth Miller is the creator of Modern Intuitive Therapy, combing the very best of psychotherapy, life coaching, energy healing, science, and spirituality.  Her practice, Positive Energy Counseling Center, in Bayport, New York and works worldwide with clients. 
Visit her youtube channel and blog are meant to teach and serve, sharing the best tools and skills to trust your soul, master your energy, and live your highest life. Beth’s The Soul Cure For Anxiety Online Therapy Course is a multi-media, 11-week alternative to attending therapy that teaches how to be calm, cool, and connected- no matter what is happening in life.
For FREE guided meditations join her at www.bethmillermeditations.com.

 

 

Ego Versus Enlightenment: Is the old you blocking who you are trying to become?

So you’ve been consciously evolving for a while now, trying everyday to be a better version of yourself. If you are anything like my clients or me, your work is paying off and you are making some traction. And even if you are hard on yourself, even if you don’t give yourself enough credit, chances are you know you are handling things differently than you have in the past. Hooray and go you!

But you may notice a strange phenomena. Have you ever felt like your old self was calling you backwards, or blocking you from moving forwards? I recently had 3 different clients that I helped with this common issue. Read on if you want to win the inner battle between your ego and your enlightenment.

One of my clients, Janet, had a resurgence of a physical problem she had dealt with in the past. When I asked her to dive deeply into her intuition and take a guess about what was causing it to crop up again, her instincts were right on target. “I feel like the cellular memory of who I was in the past is sabotaging the success I am about to have.” She was right on. After years of hard inner work, she had turned some major corners and was authentically achieving the success and self-love she desired. She was finally feeling capable and non-defective, and was doing awesome in all areas of life as a result. And them, bam. Her body starts to stall her progress.

Another client, Renee, had been depressed a good portion of her younger life. But she learned to replace depression with being authentic, creative, artistic, and living “out loud” spiritually. That is, until recently when she began to feel lost and unsure of herself, which brought on feelings of depression. It turns out that she was outgrowing the healing and creative work she had been doing the last few years but didn’t know what would fill it’s shoes. She didn’t know who or what she was being called to be or do- and this made her feel scared. So what happened? Her old autopilot emotion, depression, took over.

And yet another client, Laura, was has achieved lightyears of personal work and growth, recently collapsed into anxiety and depression because she didn’t feel confident in her profession. She began to wonder if she would ever feel capable in her career. What did this do to her? It brought on her old friends anxiety and depression, her emotional comfort zone from the past, that whisper in her ear that she will never really be able to handle life.

What is happening in all three cases, and perhaps for you as you progress towards your highest self, is that two identities are battling for your attention and future. The old ego is doing what it does best- when it feels fear it tries to get you to retreat and be a smaller version of yourself. It will do this by reuniting you with the old problems you used to have- anxiety, depression, lack of confidence, physical problems, overeating, overspending, self judgment, isolating- in an effort to keep you from moving forward. Why would it do such a thing? Because it wants to keep you safe. The ego is worried that if you keep going- if you strive for more success, abort your old self to open up to a new one, or take risks- you might fail or get hurt. So it tries to call you back to when you were too injured or frail or incapable to keep you from taking risks. It tells you that you can’t succeed, can’t be too big, aren’t cut out for the dreams you have, or are too flawed. It will assure you that giving up is a better option.

Meanwhile, your enlightened self is also calling you. The part of you that feels confident, is willing to go for it, and is excited for a change. This part of you is connected to Source Energy just enough to feel capable of shedding the old beliefs that have made you less than what you are.

This battle that happens within is so unconscious, you might barely even notice it. But that’s what’s happening when you are close to your goal weight and you start binging again, or when you create chaos around you when life starts to feel too good. This battle is at play when you are about to make a big successful move at work and somehow you sabotage the process. This inner fight happens when you hide your talents instead of showing them to the world.

If you desire to keep turning towards a more enlightened path, here’s how to help defeat that ego:

KNOW THAT IT’S NORMAL:  You are just like everyone else. We all have our glass ceilings. The ego will try to keep you from breaking though. It is a very good sign that you are reaching a transformation if you are feeling scared.

LOVE IT INTO SUBMISSION:  That’s right- talk to it like the scared child it is. When you are showing signs of going backwards instead of forwards, tell your ego that it is safe to succeed, to feel confident, to go for your dreams, to take the next step. Assure it that you can handle taking the risk and you can do it.  I’m serious, actually talk out loud.  It works.

ENEGY WORK AND BREATH:  EFT Tapping is a huge helper in scenarios like this. For one client, I gave her a very specific algorithm just for her issues. But here is a more general EFT tapping that is sure to raise your confidence and belief in yourself. Do it everyday and you will be amazed at the results. And breathe for goodness sakes! This will make room for you to observe the ego and choose the path to your greatness instead. You and your enlightened self are worth it. You deserve everything that is waiting for you.

Beth Miller is the creator of Modern Intuitive Therapy, combing the very best of psychotherapy, life coaching, energy healing, science, and spirituality.  Her practice, Positive Energy Counseling Center, in Bayport, New York and works worldwide with clients.
Visit her youtube channel and blog are meant to teach and serve, sharing the best tools and skills to trust your soul, master your energy, and live your highest life. Beth’s The Soul Cure For Anxiety Online Therapy Course is a multi-media, 11-week alternative to attending therapy that teaches how to be calm, cool, and connected- no matter what is happening in life.
For FREE guided meditations join her at www.bethmillermeditations.com.

 

 

What Gabby Bernstein’s Stilettos Taught Me At Hay House Conference

I recently attended the Hay House Writer’s workshop and had some pretty cool take-aways.  There were some big names in the world of self-help on stage, teaching us all about the craft of writing and how to broadcast our messages.  You know Gabrielle Bernstein?  May Cause Miracles and Spirit Junkie author? If not, you would like her.  She’s got just the right mix of rad and righteous, just the perfect spin on spiritual meets “what’s up girl?”

I had a funny thing happen to me the morning I was getting ready to get on the 6 am train from the suburbs to get to the Javitz Center by 8. I’ll admit I’m embarrassed about it, but I’m going to share it for all the right teaching reasons.  As usual, spirit helps me see something within myself  that perhaps is a gift for you, too.

So here was the situation:  I was getting dressed. It was dark in my room (I left the lights off so my husband could sleep while I got ready) and I was feeling around for my jewelry.  And as I was layering on my rings, earing, bracelets and putting on some red lipstick, I had this crazy, self-conscious thought.  I wondered/worried/considered “Will I fit in at the crunchy Hay House warm -and- feely symposium with all this bling on?”

I was shocked.  How could I be so shallow? Was I actually preoccupied with who or what I will fit in with?  I mean, I am confident and self-assured….uhhh, I guess unless it’s 4:30 am and I’m about to go to a conference where I hope something life-changing will happen for me.  And the weirdest, most bizarre part was that I actually had a thought about what Gabby Bernstein wore on the cover of her May Cause Miracles book jacket.  Casual. Not too showy.  Chill in white cotton and light makeup.

So I got dressed and yes, in case you are curious, I did wear all my jewelry and lipstick. As a matter of fact, I totally forgot about my pre-dawn mental foray into wondering what anyone would think of me.

And then I got to the event and about one third of the women were in high boots, skirts, funky jewelry, and all sorts of trendy items.  I thought:  “Oh, this tribe has gotten fashionable since I last  saw you all at Omega!”

And here’s the best part.  After a few fabulous speakers, Gabby was announced and you know what she comes out wearing?  Super tight white skinny jean leggings, a loose white tank top, and sky-high stilettos.  No joke. Did I mention the bright red lipstick?

She tells us that early on in her career (before it was one) she was having groups in her living room that were “Carrie Bradshaws that wanted to be Marianne Williamsons”.  In other words, pop-cultured style -devotees desperately seeking spiritual connection.

And I just laughed and laughed and laughed at myself in my seat in the audience.  I realized what my jewelry self-consciousness was all about.  Will I fit it?  Am I the type that can make an impact in my field?  Do I have the look, the style, the presentation of someone succeeding?  Do I look like an author- no, scratch that-  do I look like a self-help author?

I want to say thank you Gabby Bernstein.  Because you do not look like yester-years self-growth teachers.  You look like ONE of todays.  You have stilettos, and some have Birkenstocks, and some reject footwear all together. Some wear tight skinny jeans while others exclusively wear robes or white frocks.  Some shave their heads, some layer on the hair extensions  Because today’s contemporary spiritual teachers are as diverse as the Thank-God growing audience that loves, wants, and needs what “expanding consciousness” has to offer.

Thank you Gabby Bernstein for being yourself, for being authentic to YOU.  Because of the many, many important bits of wisdom  I got from your talk, one of the best was that being yourself is your most powerful stance in life.  And your shoes (of all things!) broadcasted this deeply spiritual message loud and clear.

Spirituality is no longer occurring only in ashrams or healing schools.  It’s at Niemen Marcus and Kohls, book clubs and reality tv, PTA meetings and even bars.  We are everywhere and we are spreading like an equal opportunity forest fire of love.  The  face of spiritually-informed world views is the same as it’s core message:  everyone is welcome here, and love is the light that unites us.  And I’m right there with you all, bracelets jangling all the way.

Take a moment now to ask yourself if you are being all-in authentic to who you are, in every way.  If not, perhaps it is costing you success or vibrancy or truth or clarity.  Like Gabby, you are  at your highest and best when you claim and broadcast the truest you to the world. It’s the most powerful version of you that there is. 

Beth Miller is the creator of Modern Intuitive Therapy, combing the very best of psychotherapy, life coaching, energy healing, science, and spirituality.  She has a private practice in Sayville, New York and works worldwide with clients.  Beth hosts Positive Energy weekly groups and a Sunday Morning Enlightenment series.  Her youtube channel and blog are meant to teach and serve, sharing the best tools and skills to trust your soul, master your energy, and live your highest life. Beth’s The Soul Cure For Anxiety Online Therapy Course is a multi-media, 11-week alternative to attending therapy that teaches how to be calm, cool, and connected- no matter what is happening in life.  For FREE guided meditations join her at www.bethmillermeditations.com.

 

 

#1 TRICK TO GET UNSTUCK

I use a ton of different tricks to help clients when they have trouble moving forward. Energy healing, asking guides for help, reprogramming fears, EFT, prioritizing values, creating micro-steps towards success- you name it, I use it.  Many people seek out help to gain clarity and get un-stuck, and it’s my job to have the best tools to help my clients scale any barriers that get in their way.

So there is one tool that is so effective- and a little unusual for a therapist to teach. I delitfully call this tool “So what?’  and here’s how to use it:

When you desire a change in your life, you want to go from living FINE to living more AWESOME.  Living fine means staying just as you are.  Living more awesome means you will encounter some uncomfortable feelings.  What I mean is that, as you begin to take the next step towards getting what you want, you sometimes won’t feel like doing it.  You might feel lazy, tired, or scared.  You might feel unsure, unmotivated, or worried. In other words, instead of feeling super-psyched to make the change, you might feel feelings that keep you from going for it.

 When this happens, here’s what I suggest you do:  tell your feelings that they are not facts and say “So what?”  So what that you feel unsure? Make a move  anyway.  So what you feel worried? Take a mini-action step regardless.  So what you feel lazy? Get up and go anyhoo.     

It might seem strange to hear a psychotherapist say “So what?” about your feelings, but I have good reason.  Feelings are important, but they are not everything. Too often we let our feelings direct our lives and make all sorts of choices for us, as in “I don’t feel like eating spinach now, I feel like cake instead” or “I don’t feel like confronting this issue with my partner, I just feel like stewing about it” or “I need to call this new business prospect but I feel scared, so I won’t.”

The emotional mind, where our feelings reside, is one of many “minds” within us. Feelings matter but so do the other components in our decision making- wisdom, rational thought, values, goals.   To truly tap into the power of our whole selves, we can acknowledge the feelings that are holding us back… while also paying attention to why we want to move forward and what wisdom and skills we have to do so.

When you notice you are  stuck about something, get in touch with the feeling that is holding you back.   Validate how you feel and then tell that feeling who is boss.   If you truly desire to live more AWESOME instead of just, gulp, GOOD ENOUGH or FINE (and I know you do!) just say “So what?” to the fear and do it anyway.  IF you are thinking “It’s not that easy, Beth!” or “But that’s hard, Beth!”, just tell those feelings “So what’s it’s hard?! I do hard things all the time!”

Try it this week and let me know what barriers you broke through or steps you took!