Not long ago I had the great pleasure of listening to some super cool speakers at the Hay House Writers Workshop. Of the many, Nick Ortner, Tapping Guru and author of several books about EFT including The Tapping Solution, struck a great balance between funny and profound. He had several gems, some real words of advice that really stuck with me. Of these take-aways, here were a few of my most impactful faves:
- “IT TOOK ME 12 YEARS TO BECOME AN OVERNIGHT SUCCESS”. This was a running theme at the conference and was a real wake-up call to any of the authors in the audience who thoughts they might write a book, become an overnight success, and make a million dollars in sales. Nick helped pop the illusionary bubble of instant fame and wealth. No, he said, he and most authors do not simply bang out a killer book and become New York Time’s Bestsellers. Instead, he told the real story: a tale of taking chances, following his gut, accruing debt, and working his tooshie off to get where he is today.
- INTUITION + RISK TAKING + DEDICATION= SUCCESS. Nick story was a wonderful tromp through the process of a creative guy who wanted to make a movie about Tapping. His narrative had tons of sub-stories that often began something like: “So I left my job to make a movie but I had no idea how to make a movie so I googled it and bought $45,000 worth of camera equipment, even though I had no idea how to make a movie.” The moral of this and his other intuition-following, risk-taking tales was that he believed enough in his movie- and himself-f to stay dedicated to it even when the path seemed very unclear. As a result, synchronicities and opportunities he couldn’t have even dreamed of occurred over time (like speaking to thousands of people, writing best-selling books, getting married and having a new baby). Know why these things happened? Because he followed his gut with fervor, and yup- worked his tooshie off.
- DO YOU HAVE TO WORK YOUR TOOSHIE OFF TO BECOME SUCCESSFUL? I’ve had quite a few frustrated clients- artists, business people, authors, and musicians-who are downright deflated by how much dedication it takes to get heard in a busy world. What they learn is that having a good product or loving what you do isn’t enough. You have to love it so much you are willing to go the extra mile for it even when you feel low on steam. You have to believe in it so fiercely that giving up isn’t even an option. Because the reason it takes 12 years to become an overnight success is that you have to build yourself AND your audience up over that time.I teach my clients that there is a direct correlation between the success they have and their own process. The timing they are so frustrated with is actually the space they need to become., to master their craft and their fears.
“Big” success comes when you have the self-value and clarity to create it.
It doesn’t happen any earlier because you simply weren’t ready yet.
You are becoming… and the timing is precisely perfect.”
By the way, the answer to #3 is yes and no. Yes, you have to devote a lot of time and effort to your mission, but you can do this at your own pace. You don’t have to work non-stop on your craft, but know that the success may come slower and that’s okay. Also, aiming for big success in your field doesn’t feel like drudgery if it’s a passion. Sure the work can be hard, very hard sometimes, but you love it anyway. Successful people have an urge they can’t ignore, a burning desire that pushes them from behind to reach goals one small step at a time.
Here’s the motto I use to keep me going even when I am frustrated with any part of my own process: your mission has to be bigger than your ego. It’s the bare-boned truth and get’s me out of my own way. I have a feeling Nick Ortner believes in something like this too…
Beth Miller is the creator of Modern Intuitive Therapy, combing the very best of psychotherapy, life coaching, energy healing, science, and spirituality. She has a private practice in Sayville, New York and works worldwide with clients. Beth hosts Positive Energy weekly groups and a Sunday Morning Enlightenment series. Her youtube channel and blog are meant to teach and serve, sharing the best tools and skills to trust your soul, master your energy, and live your highest life. Beth’s The Soul Cure For Anxiety Online Therapy Course is a multi-media, 11-week alternative to attending therapy that teaches how to be calm, cool, and connected- no matter what is happening in life. For FREE guided meditations join her at www.bethmillermeditations.com. Join the fun at www.facebook.com/supertherapywithbethmiller !