Live By These 2 Three-Letter Words To Have A Pretty Rockin’ Life

No, I’m not talking about the most well-known of two-word mantras, although we certainly know that saying “thank you” all day will shape your life into a magnificent thing. Giving thanks for what you have AND for what you want to have (in advance) is a sure-fire way to live a life that is happy. After all, a grateful heart attracts more to it to be grateful for.

But this article is about two OTHER words that need your attention if you are going to make this year one of your best. Life can sometimes get a little routine, filled with repetative tasks like the circular flow of never-ending laundry, work tasks, cleaning up after a meal (only to make another to clean up after), driving to and fro jobs and after-school activities. Sometimes it seems like the routines that make us feel comfortable can backfire and actually drain the life out of life.

After a long winter (like the one we had here in the north east USA), your energy might need as much spring cleaning as your floors to bring some color back into it.

Take a moment right now to remember back to a time when you felt really alive and excited by life. How old were you? What were you doing at the time? Chances are that two little words were the reason you loved (and now miss) those time periods the most. These two words bring out the bold and beautiful in any moment and have the natural side-effects of laughter and smiling. What words could bring out the fountain of youth within each and every one of us? Simply put, they are “yes” and “fun”.

1) YES
Boy is it easy to say “no” in life. Just ask any kids you know- they hear it all the time!

As adults, we say no to life pretty frequently. Do I want to drive an hour to go out to dinner with my friends after I worked all day? No. Do I want to be intimate after losing sleep taking care of my sick children overnight? No, not really. Do I want to get off the couch and get ready so I can go dancing? Not so much. Do I want to take the long way home to enjoy the view? Not if I have million errands to get done.

But if we let every impulsive “NO” win, if we allow our first response to decide our fate, we are likely to have way too little fun.

See, as children and teens, saying Yes was our natural state. Yes, I want I ice cream before dinner! Yes, I want to play outside until it’s dark, skip my bath, and go another day dirty. Yes, I want to cut high school math and go to the beach with my friends instead! Yes, yes, yes!

The consequences were of little concern. Yes ruled the day. And even though our parents said No often, insisting that we do our homework before playing or not ride our bikes without helmets, Yes was our predominant inclination.

And that’s what made life feel good.

I think what happens, as we get older, is that we have so many darn responsibilities and goals that we say No to pleasure and play too frequently. We are working so hard that we actually become lazy about having fun. We say No to last minute plans with friends, No to spontaneously flirting with our partner, No to playing with our kids instead of just watching them play, No to loud music in the car, No to spending some of our hard earned money on adventure.

When I graduated college, my more spontaneous best friends proposed we go on a trip across country. Our one-month drive from east to west coast and back again was not well planned (all four of us slept in a 2 person tent almost every night), not particularly high-end (we drove and slept in our rented mini van), not well financed (we each had $1000 and no debit cards or cell phones), and mostly half-brained (on more than one occasion we were naive, duped, and almost in jeopardy).

It was the time of our lives. Mostly because we said Yes to experience, Yes to fun, Yes to “let’s see what’s next”, Yes to love and play. We said Yes to life.

2) FUN
This three letter word can be the compass that guides your life if you let it. There are two ways to do this: 1) Make fun a priority by setting an intention to have fun experiences and 2) transform any dull moment into a fun one with minor adjustments.

Setting The Intention To Have Fun
I tend to be a task-oriented person, always with a to-do list in my back pocket and a pen ready to add to it. This can be very non-fun for my loved ones, and for me. Thankfully, I add “have fun” onto the list so that my kids and I make space for lol activities.

Last year I had the most fun summer ever. This happened because I told myself in the prior winter and spring months that I was going to have an EXTREMELY fun summer, which I then acted upon by filling up our June, July, and August calendar months with tons of vacations, mini-trips, and activities. My philosophy was that if I penned it into the calendar, super events would be guaranteed and the weeks would be less likely to pass in a blur. I also know how a day can go by easily without really taking advantage of it or saying Yes to doing more than the have-tos. So my strategy was to make a lot of plans and seal the deal by committing to them. This way, we would have guaranteed fun and could opt to say yes to spontaneous plans along the way as well!

I didn’t want to end my summer and say “I can’t believe it’s over! We didn’t even do that much!” Rather, I was already envisioning myself telling people in September “I had my best summer ever!” And as I did, I also learned what I need to do to create a blueprint for fun: schedule and commit to plans in advance and get the heck out of the house. Why the latter? Because if I am home, I will get sidetracked by the never-ending tasks that hijack my day. It I want to have a lot of fun, I have to be out in the world where I can’t see my laundry pile, work calendar, or full dishwasher.

An easy place to start is to make a list of 12 things you would like to do that would feel really fun for you and get them on the calendar. Even if you picked only one to do per month, a more fun year would be guaranteed!

Making Non-Fun Things Fun
Organizing your world around the idea that life can be fun, no matter what you are doing, elevates the energy of any moment. But you have to say Yes to making fun your highest priority feeling.

It’s great to teach kids that you can make anything fun, and it’s a lesson each one of us usually needs a daily refresher course in. Again, having fun requires intention if you are not naturally fun all of the time . Putting music on when it’s clean up time, being goofy while making lunch, and having a contest to see who can brush their teeth the longest or find the most dust bunnies are all simple ideas that only require a fun-seeking parent.

If want my children to describe their childhood as fun, I know I have to allow it to be fun and inspire laughter and non-sense.

But you don’t need kids to make mini moments of fun. Let your hair down and whistle while you are taking care of the business of life. Make it a priority to belly laugh at least once a day. Be a little sillier that you usually allow. Turn the music on at the same volume you did when you were an exuberant teen. Text funny notes to friends and start a virtual giggle chain of messages.

What get’s in the way of allowing fun into even the most mediocre of tasks? “Rushing” or being stressed can make you a real fun murderer, decapitating smiley opportunities before they even get a chance to lighten your mood. If you’re not having fun, maybe it’s time to slow down just enough to let the light- and the love- into your day.

After all, without our 3-letter friends YES and FUN, there’s a whole lot of 4-letter words that will fill your day.

The 8 Reasons You’re Not Getting What You Desire

 

Like most of us, you probably have moments when you get frustrated when you don’t get what you want.This can be especially true for those who are consciously trying to master their own energy and practice “The Law of Attraction”. Once you get a taste of the idea that you have the power to shape your own life, it’s hard not to have a temper tantrum when your manifestation capabilities seem lacking or inept. This article is meant to help you see how the process itself of achieving your desires is meant to serve (and not just irritate) you…if you harness it right.  Read on to learn more about how to co-create like the mini diety you are- and how to reduce your anxiety and frustration when it doesn’t seem to be “working”.

You might think you would love your life to be like the “I Dream of Genie” television show: how nice it would be to just think up something that you want, cross your arms, wiggle your nose, and poof: your desire appears before you- ready to driven by you, loved by you, lived in, worked at, eaten, flaunted, or spent in huge and worry-free amounts. “Yes”, you’re thinking, “I absolutely DO want to be like the genie! I want to be able to get what I want whenever I want it. Sign me up!”

But I’d like to challenge that….

Imagine life on this planet with 7 billion genies, each one ordering up the perfect cars, bodies, relationships, food, homes, careers, and the ideal amount of money. Whatever could be imagined or wanted would be accomplished without any effort or personal growth whatsoever.

Sounds good, right? On the plus side, the pros of being a genie are:
1) You get to wear flashy, diaphanous, loose clothing
2) You get to have whatever you want, whenever you want it without any thought or struggle.

On the other hand, maybe there is a positive side to learning how to co-create what you want, instead of just having all your desires appear automatically, without any effort. Here are the 8 Reasons Why You Are Not Getting What You Desire and the how to work with the delays that are actually serving your highest good:

We like to “have our hands in the clay”. To potters, who make art out of clay on a spinning wheel, the very act of having their hands in the clay is the ecstasy of the medium. The shaping and guiding of material into a bowl or sculpture and not just the finished project is the very reason for the process itself. Sometimes the clay collapses, other times they learn how to move their hands perfectly to make right shape comes to life. We all, like potters, like to be a part of shaping our life as it unfolds. We figure out what we want and how to get it by being a literal shaper of the process. We get to sit down at the wheel of life everyday, put our hands in the material, experiment with how we craft our creation, re-evaluate when it’s not coming out right, start over when necessary, and sometimes be surprised when we’ve made something we love even more than what we originally thought we wanted to create. Anyone can go to Target and just buy a bowl, but that’s not creating, that’s consuming. Try to love being a creator. It’s really the whole reason you are on the planet.

We need “The journey”. Picture this: your whole life you have wanted to go white water rafting and you finally plan your adventurous vacation. When you arrive by the rapids, you decide that instead of dropping your raft in at the top of the river and actually taking the ride downstream, you opt to just drag your boat to where the water ends and skip the actual adventure. How satisfying would it be to get to the end of the river without cruising the journey where you would have felt all of the exhilarating, scary, calm, beautiful, and wild parts? Even if you don’t dig water sports, the point here is clear:  we want and need the RIDE that is life, and we must appreciate the bumpy, frightening, and happy parts because they are intrinsic to the adventure. Just getting what we want without the trip would be mundane and boring.

We need learn what faith is and how to actually have it. Faith is “believing without seeing”, and having faith enables us to remember that we are not alone in the universe our lives, but are actually part of a big intelligent web of energy that we inter-relate with.

When you are not getting what you want immediately, your higher self is asking you to reverse the ol’ “seeing is believing” motto and accept what can be. When you are frustrated by life, tell yourself the “I AM” story, where you realize that you are a creative being with immense powers. Claim what you want and take the focus off what you don’t have. “I AM the highest ranking real estate agent in the NorthEast”, “I AM a loving parent with tons of patience”, “I AM $10,000 richer.”

We get the opportunity to continuously refine what we actually want as we go through the process of creating it. Imagine if you immediately got everything you thought or felt about, before you got a chance to be absolutely sure of who you are what you want. Remember that old slogan “Careful what you wish for because you just might get it”?

Oh, gosh, the strangers you would have harmed with your random judgments, the people you might have married, the interviews that crushed you when you didn’t get the jobs. Often, the space between ourselves and manifestation is a grace that gives us time and room to get clear about who we are, what we want and why. If there is something in your life that’s not coming to fruition, you might want to go back to the drawing board and make sure the specs of what you think you want are truly right.

We actually develop and learn the specific skills necessary to accomplish our dreams.  Achieving something you desire is less about the outcome on the outside, it’s more about the inner change. In other words, the material accomplishment is a natural bi-product of changing or growing within yourself. So let’s say you want the new book you wrote to be a best seller, what beliefs about yourself need to change within you? What skills do you need to launch a bestselling book? Are there marketing, PR, or business skills you need to develop for the next phase of your successful life? Make the inner changes to see the outer results.

We learn what is special about us, and where our individual talents and strengths are. If every genie could create the same things, there would be no differences between us.

Almost everyone seems to want to be a millionaire, but each person’s path to get there is vastly different and dependent upon their unique gifts. One person can become rich by managing hedgefunds, another by inventing a product, being a CEO, or running a factory. The desire to be rich, successful, or well known is the catalyst that drives people to expand upon and highlight their highest gifts and innate talents. Each one of us has a unique, important design that we can capitalize upon if we desire. If you aren’t getting an outer manifestation, it may be because you aren’t tapping into your highest, truest talents yet. It may be time to express your most authentic self to see those outer results.

Sometimes, when we don’t get what we want right away, we realize later how it served our highest good. Try to view the perceived delays in your process as blessings and opportunities. What is your highest self asking of you? In what ways to you need to grow, develop, refine, showcase your skills or get clear? Are you willing to take the ride and appreciate the journey? Remember you are a creator, meant to have your hands in the clay of life and shape what you experience. Don’t get frustrated with the outcomes- instead look for the information embedded in the ride and how it is all serving you.

Beth Miller is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Certified Life Coach, energy healer, and spiritual counselor in private practice in Sayville, Long Island, New York USA.  She has one foot firmly planted on the earth while the other is exploring the spiritual mysteries of energy.  She works with individuals in person and via telephone, teaches workshops and groups, and has a lively youtube channel in which she teaches tools to cure anxiety and get in the flow of life. She is the author of The Soul Cure For Anxiety: The Ultimate Modern Therapy To Be Calm, Cool, and Connected (no matter what happens in life), a program that delivers the most effective therapy treatment to the inbox of anyone and everyone who wants to radically change their stress, worry, and anxiety. In USA 631.327.0090

Video: Let Go, Trust The Process, and Get Into The Flow

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