When you are anxious you often feel like you mind is in charge and sometimes it just takes off with you like a wild horse. And there you are, so busy bouncing around on the saddle, just trying to get through the latest bumpy ride of panic, stress-induced self medicating (eating, crying, sleeping, yelling) ,or worst-case scenario ruminations that you’re forgetting how powerful you are. You need to learn how to sit up, pull on those reigns, and start steering that horse in the direction you want to go. Because after all, you are the master of your mind…and your own life.
Here are the top three steps you can take when you realize your mind has wandered off track and is busy thinking about stuff that isn’t going to serve you in any way:
1) Notice You Are Off Course: The first key here is to realize that you are thinking and feeling about things that make you feel bad and that aren’t leading to positive change or solutions. Take several deep belly breaths to reduce your adrenaline and make a choice. Ask yourself “Do I want to feel bad or good?” “Do I want to help this situation?” If you answered in the affirmative, move on to step 2. If you aren’t sure you want to feel better, don’t judge yourself, but be okay with not feeling okay. Remember, it’s a choice.
2) Recognize Your Power: The anxious mind is powerful, no doubt. It’s often been reinforced by years of habits and neurological wiring that enables it to just hit “play” on the same old record, causing your feelings, thoughts, and body to all do the fear jig on cue. But realizing that the mind works for you means that you can mentally hit the “stop” button on that tired old record. Your anxiety is a part of you but is not actually you. If you can notice it, you can take charge of it. See it for what it is: just a fear- based response to life that is acting out the same part it has many, many times before.
But you are the master, you are in charge, and you get to decide what you think about- and what you don’t. If you want to think about your 5 favorite kinds of flowers, your funniest high school memory, or the most beautiful tree on your block you can. If you want to think about the worst mistakes you made at work this week, why you will never get married, or the recent ways your friends let you down, you can think about that too.
What you focus on is all about choice. But I know how tenacious the anxious mind is and how it will veer, over and over, down the tempting negative path. Sometimes it will notice you’ve become lax about keeping your positive focus and will gallop off into the sunset with horrible ideas about you and your life. After all, it’s a creature of habit. But you have the reigns and you need to be vigilant. Sit up, pull them in closer to you, and steer yourself (over and over and over) back to the thoughts that feel better. That horse will get the message over time, that life is okay enough, good enough, and safe enough for you to actually enjoy the blessings you put your focus on.
3) Make It Easier On Yourself: It’s way simpler and more effective to steer the mind when you have slept enough, when you eat regularly and keep your blood sugars balanced (low blood sugars make you moody and feel a whole lot like adrenaline), when you don’t drink 5 cups of coffee (or at least drink mostly decaf and tons of water), when you take a walk everyday (or at least 4 days a week), and when do basic meditation or sit still and belly breathe. The body will work with you if you set it up for success. Some people take GABA (to supplement the brain’s natural tranquilizer that is very low in people with anxiety) or Calmes Forte (a homeopathic medicine for anxiety) to help the body help the mind. Learn to belly breath (learn how with this teaching video) and use the energy healing method “Tapping” (try one of my Tapping videos ) to reduce fear in any moment. Practices like these help the mind work for you.
Here’s an EFT Sequence to use to open the heart and allow in miracles
Your mind can be re-trained but it needs support from the physical, energetic, and spiritual parts of you, too. If, after trying to control or guide your mind to think more positive, you have given up because it just doesn’t seem to work, don’t lose hope. It does and will change if you truly realize that you are in charge. Sit up and take those reigns time and time again, knowing you are reconditioning the beast that has been taking you for a ride.
Beth Miller is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Certified Life Coach, energy healer, and spiritual counselor Bayport, Long Island, New York USA. She has one foot firmly planted on the earth while the other is exploring the spiritual mysteries of energy. She works with individuals in person and via telephone, teaches workshops and groups, and has a lively YouTube channel in which she teaches tools to cure anxiety and get in the flow of life. She is the author of The Soul Cure For Anxiety: The Ultimate Modern Therapy To Be Calm, Cool, and Connected (no matter what happens in life), a program that delivers the most effective therapy treatment to the inbox of anyone and everyone who wants to radically change their stress, worry, and anxiety. In USA 631.327.0090